Anyway, all of this means that in China itself, if you're dating someone seriously, marriage is at least on the table.
Even if it’s not such a big deal to her personally, it's still something that's on her mind and that her parents will be bringing up just about every time they see her.
Once I asked a girl what she wanted to do for the date and she just never responded!
It’s also commonplace to bring a friend along, but not for a double date – it’s more like a chaperon, buffer or safety net.
You’ll often hear people say that cultural differences are overstated or not as much of a factor as they used to be, and while there is some validity to that, cultural differences are nothing to scoff at – they do most definitely exist.
Understanding this, more than anything else, is the key to a successful Chinese dating experience.
This goes back to less stable times, when marriage meant much-needed security, but of course this is by no means a purely Chinese phenomenon: In 2010, 44% of American women had , but way way back in 1995, more than 59% had been hitched by 25.
China is relatively new to the whole modern-stable-globalized-internet (still working on that last one, really) country thing, and when your culture is over 4,000 years in the making, old habits die hard.
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